What is an elopement, anyway? …Really though.
In the photography community, there’s a term floating around that tries to describe our weird blinders: Photography Land.
In Photography Land, everything we know about photography is “normal.” We’re so used to different terms, turns of phrase, events, etc. that we don’t think much about them. But sometimes other people have no idea what we’re talking about. And we forget that they don’t know what we’re talking about. It’s like we’re speaking a different language but don’t always remember that it’s a different language.
Does that make any sense?
Listen, my whole world is elopements. When I’m not putting in ridiculous hours for my couples and my business…I’m thinking about them. Constantly. I’m talking about elopements with other photographers, sharing tips and info, location scouting, etc. etc. I love looking at the photos from my elopement. The word “elopement” is so prominent in my mind that I often forget that some people have never even thought about it once. (Are you sick of the word “elopement” yet?)
I tell people that I’m an elopement photographer, and all too often they’ll say, “…what? You do what? I don’t…what is an elopement?”
So here’s what we’re going to do: we’re going to discuss what in the name of pants an elopement is, because more likely than not, it’s not what you think.
Before we get into what elopements are, let’s get into what they aren’t. There are a lot of stereotypes out there, and we need to wade through them real quick so we can push them out of the way.
Whatever you think you know about elopements, whatever you’ve seen or been told… throw it out the window. The core tenant of an elopement is that it can be whatever you want it to be. Entirely unique.
This “definition” has changed a lot over the years, and I’m sure it’ll be changing again in the future. As of right now, here’s what elopements are to me:
“An elopement is an intentional wedding day that puts the focus on the couple getting married, not on the trappings of a traditional wedding celebration. It’s a reflection of the couple’s relationship, a celebration of their love, and the acknowledgment that the way they exchange vows and commit their lives to one another matters.”
You can go anywhere you want.
You can do anything you want.
When my partner and I were planning our own elopement, I can’t even begin to describe how freeing it was to have all the doors of opportunity wide open. We could choose any location we wanted without worrying about whether a certain venue was booked, or how expensive it would be. Then we could structure our day however we wanted to spend as much time together as possible. We could choose to keep our guest list teeny tiny so as not to distract from the whole point of our wedding: getting married.
It was perfect.
10/10 do recommend, would absolutely do it again. And again, and again, and again.
The most important thing is that you and your partner are happy. That’s what I’m getting at here.
Like I said before: eloping isn’t for everyone. But neither are big traditional weddings. If you know in your gut that this was meant for you and your partner, let me know! I’m already stoked to help you plan your adventure. And if you’re on the fence? Let me know that too! Always happy to talk things through, even if that means you decide on a traditional wedding.
My inbox is always open. No pressure, no strings xx